I know, I know , being single is supposed to really suck, isn’t it? Before I get all of the hate mail and reasons I shouldn’t be celebrating singlehood, just hear me out. According to the U.S. Census Bureau as of 2012, 112 million over the age of 18 are unmarried. That is a whopping 47% of the U.S. population. That fact alone proves that you are definitely NOT alone.
It’s not that single women don’t love being in love. In fact many single women would love nothing more than to find someone to share their life experiences with; However, many single women want to make sure that the time, the person and the circumstances are all right for them. In other words, they have options.
The challenge is to learn to appreciate those options and learn how to use them to become a better version of yourself regardless of what your relationship status maybe.
There are many reasons why people either find themselves single or choose to be single . Many of those reasons make perfect sense for them in their lives. They are happy taking their time deciding what and who is right for them.
July 4th is a day set aside to celebrate the birth of America’s independence and freedom. Below are 5 great reasons single women find to honor and celebrate the freedom they have to make the most of the life they have been blessed to live each and every day.
5. Being single allows you the time to heal from the previous wounds of past relationships.
I know it is a popular belief that the best way to heal from your last love is in the arms of your next one. If that worked, there would have been a line of entrepreneurs that would have found a way to bottle that up and sell it. The first one in that line would have been yours truly.
Unfortunately, the world is full of those who have traveled that path only to find out that they were left with disappointment and still more stuff to recover from. Until we get naked with the truth, our wounds only grows larger.
Until we take the necessary time to heal the wounds of a broken heart WITHOUT the complication of compiling more complications on top of the complications we already have, we only carries those wounds and the complications into our next relationship.
4. Being single allows you to do what you want, when you want. the way you want.
Let’s be honest, isn’t it nice to wake up at noon, let “the girls” hang out and lounge around in your pajamas all day long. It’s just something grand about not having to impress a single soul.
There is just something about being free to do whatever you want, when you want, and exactly the way you want . When there is no one around to tell you that you shouldn’t do the ONE thing your heart is screaming you should do, IS the definition of freedom.
If you want to wake up at 2:00 am in the morning and eat cheerios, go for it! If you want to run around your house as naked at the day you were born, have had it!
There is nothing wrong with taking a little time for yourself. It’s all about balance and finding the perfect balance. Being single is a great opportunity to indulge in a little “you” time before you have to share “you” with anyone else.
3. Being single allows you the space to choose what it best for you in your life.
So many times when we are in the pursuit of our next relationship or the next thing that we think will soothe our pain and loneliness, we lose sight of what we really want. We think we are supposed to be in a relationship right now because everyone thinks we are supposed to be in one.
It doesn’t matter if it a relationship that is abusive, unhealthy or just not right for us, we are simply supposed to be in one because everyone else expects us to be in one. Is that really the way it’s supposed to work?
Being single is a great opportunity to take the time and space to evaluate who you really are, what you really believe and what you really value. If pursuing a relationship is something you want in the future, you will be in a much healthier place to find a compatible partner.
There’s just something to be said about getting real with who you are and finding someone who helps compliment who you REALLY are on the inside, without having to compromise what you REALLY value.
At no other time will you have the time to self reflect on who you are, what you want and what you value than when you are single. Knowing who I am, what I want and value , puts me in a much better place to more confidently choose what and who is a good fit for me.
2. Being single allows you to experience getting outside of your comfort zone.
Have you ever wanted to jump on a plane and fly to Bali or some exotic place just for the heck of it? I can almost guarantee that anyone who has EVER been successful in life will tell you one thing consistently.
If you want to take your life to the next level whether that be professionally or personally, you MUST step outside of your comfort zone.
Not one person that I know that is ultra successful in their lives became successful sitting on the comfort of their sofa. Whether it was in their personal life or professional life, they pushed themselves to learn more and do more to experience life more fully. When we want more in life, more will be required of us.
When you force yourself to experience things you have never experienced before a whole new and exciting world will open up for you. You will meet new and exciting people.
God will open doors for you that you didn’t even know there was even a door for you to go through. When you open up your mind to new challenging experiences, you open up a world of new opportunities.
1. Being single is a wonderful time to live a focused and intentional life.
What’s an intentional life you might ask? Living a life of intention is the best way to find what you really want in your life and do what is necessary to achieve it.
By living an intentional life, you are saying YES to what you really want and saying NO to everything else. If you have taken the time as stated above to know what you REALLY want, being single allows you the time and opportunity to go after what you want.
If wanting a HEALTHY and LOVING relationship is what you want, be clear about that and say YES to that and say NO to everything else that does not align with what you want.
You noticed that I emphasized HEALTHY and LOVING. I am not talking about having a relationship just for the sake of having a relationship. I am talking about a true partnership of love and respect.
If wanting a relationship is what you want, you MUST say NO to investing your time with people who will not or can give that to you. It is simply a waste of valuable time and energy.
By not saying Yes to things that you know in your heart you don’t want, you are putting into the universe that those things are okay with you. By putting into the universe that you are okay with things that you really aren’t okay with you will continue to attract those things that your really aren’t okay with.
We must learn to put all of our focus and our mental energy into things that we want NOT what we really don’t want. I had to learn that lesson the hard way.
If you REALLY want a relationship, you must be clear that casual relationships are not what you want. I am not being judgmental, I am just talking about being clear about what you want. If you really want a committed relationship, say NO to casual relationships if they continue to make you feel lonely, rejected, hurt or empty in the end.
If you really want a relationship, be intentional in investing your heart and your time on people who are ready, willing and able to give that to you. When you put into the universe that certain things are okay with you, you will continue to receive those things.
If you just go along with the flow without clear intentions, you will continue to attract partners who will continue to bring you the very things that you know deep down inside you really don’t want.
For some singles, they are not seeking romantic partners and are looking to advance their career or professional goals. If advancing your life to next level is what you want you must be clear and intentional in your pursuit of going in that direction.
You must be intent on succeeding. You must be intentional in learning everything you need to know and making the right connections in order to succeed.
Being single is a great time to take advantage of your blessings. Being in a healthy and satisfying relationship is a blessing. Being single is also a blessing. They are different blessings that serve different purposes in God’s overall plan for us in our lives. I hope you are celebrating your independence to choose what is best for you in your life this 4th of July and every day of your life!
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